Marcy Barack: 5 tips on making conversation

Making successful small talk with someone you've just met isn't rocket science, but it does demand more effort than tossing out a tired opening line.

To get the ball rolling, here are five practical principles for starting a conversation when you don't know what to say.

1. Flattery will get you everywhere. Make with the compliments to begin on a positive note.
2. Props. Women work hard choosing their accessories, and anyone who notices wins points.
3. Redirection. People love to share their enthusiasm for their hobbies.
4. Ask more than yes/no questions. Think like a reporter: Ask who, what, when, where and why.
5. Listen, really listen, to the other person.

~ Marcy Barack, "Secrets of Great Conversation," MSN Dating & Personals, November 18, 2007